Last night I was reading through my Bible plan. As I read about Laban, Jacob’s father-in-law in Genesis 31 I was reminded of one of the best lessons I ever learned:
(Mom & Dad)::
“What other people say and do is a reflection of them alone.”
Little did I know as a kid how blessed my parents’ words would be to me as an adult. I was raised knowing that what others said and did was a reflection of them- not me. Meaning the choices others made held no weight on my personal value… or as the verdict for my errors and successes.
Often we think gossip, lies, and cheating ends in grade school but like the ancient philosopher Peter Pan taught me… some grown ups choose to never grow up. They may have families, jobs, or be busy in religious institutions… but the measure of a man(or woman) has more to do with the overflow of who they are inside. (Luke 6:45, Proverbs 4:23, Matthew 12:34, Mark 7:21-23)
Integrity is learned when we choose to be men and women who live lives not in defense of the words of others but on the offense for Christ. He alone vindicates those whose walk is upright.
The goal of our lives should never be to please others, as that is an impossible goal. When one man is pleased, another 10 are displeased. The heart of a human is guided so strongly by ever-changing egos and emotions that stem from within that it is from within that their contentment must come. You and I do not have such power.
Be encouraged today that we all become the subjects of gossip now and again. In the “profound” words of Taylor Swift… shake it off. 🙂 Do what is right and know that God sees it all. He hears the words but beyond that he sees the hearts of others and you. (Psalm 139)